Many of us find it hard to say no.  Often times when we do say no to something we feel the need to give reasons for it.  In one of my workshops recently a woman made the statement that she felt free when she realized that the word “no” is a complete sentence.  I love that!  We don’t have to justify our decisions to others when we are choosing what’s best for us. I’m not saying to be belligerent about it, but you don’t always have to justify your decisions.

In the last 5 years I’ve learned to recognize when I’m in a situation with a client that isn’t good for me and to put a transition plan in place so that I can focus on the things I want to focus on. It’s not always easy to do it, but when you can say no to a situation that isn’t serving you it creates a space for new opportunities to come in.

The other thing I’ve learned to do is to say no to social events, dinners and other things I get invited to that I really don’t want to participate in.  I used to go because I felt like needed to (not sure why?) and then once I got there I couldn’t wait to head for the door.  Now, I spend my time doing the things I want to do and with the people I want to be with.  Time is so precious these days, I only want to spend it doing the things I want to do and I don’t have room any longer for those other things.  Some people may think that’s selfish, but I’m okay with that