Criticism: how to view it
I noticed yesterday that someone posted a really negative review about Carve Your Own Road on Amazon.com. I read it and thought, “wow, that’s really personal.” Initially it hurt my feelings, it’s never easy to get criticized…especially when you’re doing something you love and it’s coming from the heart.
I know when you put yourself out there you will get criticized, it’s inevitable. A lot of people are fearful of putting themselves out there for that very reason. When you decide to do something you’re really passionate about and if it’s public in any way you have to be prepared for criticism.
After getting over the initial hurt, I decided to create a way to view this criticism and the inevitable future critiques by this criteria:
1) Is there any truth to the criticism from my point of view?
2) Is the feedback balanced and constructive or was it just a pissed off person who likely bitches about everything?
3) What is the overall feedback and how does this critique compare?
After I did this I felt much better! I think it’s important to look at this because no matter what you’re doing you’re going to get feedback and it’s important to create a way to evaluate it. There’s some feedback that’s just not helpful and there’s good, constructive feedback that can make you better.
Hi Jennifer, great site and great information. I agree that criticism can be an achilles heal for many people if they don’t know how to deal with it constructively, or let it brush of their shoulder. I do think you could have gone more in-depth on the subject, as this is a subject many people struggle with…there’s my critique
Anyways, I am also a career coach and would love to maintain a dialogue with you and your firm. I will be ordering your book and will give you my thoughts once complete. In the meanwhile, do you have any specific advice for middle-age women re-entering the work force. I am an GenY and sometimes I come across like a know-it-all when I am coaching people from other demos. Thanks - AJ
Comment by Abraham Jankans — June 7, 2009 @ 3:42 am
If it’s any consolation, my copy of “Carve Your Own Road” will arrive via post today, according to the tracking information on Amazon. I’m anxious to get started on it.
Regards
Comment by Glenn — June 9, 2009 @ 3:55 pm
I added your blog to Google Reader.
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